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Dealing with rejection as a writer

15 Jan

If you’re going to submit stories, you’re going to get rejected.
This is just a simple fact of probability & statistics.

So how do you deal with it?

  1. Don’t take it personally. Your story was one of hundreds being read, the odds were against you.
  2. Try to learn from the experience. If the rejection says why, take the advice on board.
  3. Get back on the horse. Try to get another submission out as soon as possible.
  4. Don’t dwell on it. Letting anything fester is a bad idea, it happened, move on.
  5. Find another market. Try to research more suitable places for the story, submit there.
  6. Accept it as part of the job. Success isn’t guarenteed. Even J.K. Rowling got shot down a ton of times before she sold Harry Potter. Now that little fecker’s everywhere you turn!

So just try to accept that there WILL be rejections. They aren’t aimed at you personally. So you didn’t float their particular boat, that’s fine. Diff’rent strokes for diff’rent folks.

My mindset is this:- When I submit, I EXPECT to fail. If I fail, it’s not a shock, it doesn’t upset me, I was prepared for it. If, on the other hand I get an acceptance, it’s a nice surprise.

Try to set your own coping mechanisms in place for rejection. New writers rarely sell well at the start.

Submit to markets that buy your genre, give yourself a fighting chance.
Read what they buy, try not to send exactly the same thing but your next best attempt.
If a market has a particular vibe, try to write within it.

Most of all, keep submitting. If you aren’t subbing, you can’t get acceptances.

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Always Be Writing (DON’T!)

11 Jan

The worst writing advice I keep seeing are “Always be writing!” or “A writer is always writing!

Let me tell you. THIS IS BULLSHIT!

Not everyone has the same mindset, the same character, and the same background.
We’re all different.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting to forward yourself as a writer.
But it doesn’t always have to involve the act of writing.

EXAMPLE:-

Yesterday, I sent three stories out in submission.
The day before that I wrote two new stories. (Unusual for me, normally one is my limit)
And the day before that, I was modifying my story archives to make it easier/faster for me to locate stories.

So, at no point was I always writing. I didn’t write yesterday.
Admittedly, I started out with the INTENTION to write. But that didn’t pan out.
So I submitted stuff to places I knew were open.

If you want to get published, you have to be submitting. That’s a truism I CAN stand behind.

If you want to write, do it on your terms, in your own time.
That’s not an excuse to procrastinate, however.
You can always find something that’s helping you move forward as a writer.

So if it’s not writing, do those things.

New Year, new ways

2 Jan

Welcome to 2018!

I’ve already had my 1st story rejection (subbed 3rd Dec 17).

So, as I’ve been subbing more stories and expect to sub more this year, I’ve decided on a new system to keep my archived subs in order of sending.

Before, I used an alphabetical letter system. I’ll now be using a numerical system as it’s easier to work out how much is out at one time then. System is in operation as of today.

My take on Heinlein’s Rules

25 Jul

Heinlein’s Rules

 

Rule 1: You Must Write

Agreed. If you aren’t writing, you aren’t a writer. Shopping lists and diaries don’t count.

Rule 2: Finish What You Start

Well, you can’t submit ideas or partials so this is a given. But everyone has an archive of things they’ve started and never finished. Mine literally numbers into the hundreds.

Rule 3: You Must Refrain From Rewriting, Except to Editorial Order

Again, I agree. I hate rewrites. Once I’ve finished, I think a story is as good as it’s getting. Most of the time.

Rule 4: You Must Put Your Story on the Market

Again I agree. You can’t sell if you don’t submit. For me, 2017 has been my most submitting year to date.

Rule 5: You Must Keep it on the Market until it has Sold

Not sure about this one. Some stuff will NEVER sell. There’s persistance, and there’s flat out blind stupidy. You’ve got to know when it’s time to stop hawking a story around. It’s not being taken for a reason. That’s why Rule 3 isn’t always right.

Rule 6: Start Working on Something Else

No. Flat out NO. If you’re always writing, you’ve never rested. If you don’t rest, you burn out. You burn out, you start hating the cause. Which is writing. So know when to stop.

And that’s my take on Heinlein’s rules.

The Haze By Ray Daley [poem]

10 Jun

The Haze By Ray Daley 10/6/17.

It’s easy to get bewildered or flustered,
Your mind goes like custard, but don’t taste as good.
You don’t recall every last detail like you once could.

It’s easy to fall in a spiked pit of doubt, You just can’t get out,
But you feel like you ought, Your tries come to nought.
Trying picking your battles, just win ones you’ve fought.

That’s why, I say with a sigh, It’s easy to get bewildered or flustered,
Your thoughts thick like mustard, but don’t taste as good.
You wish you were younger, that’s understood.

Trying thinking, not drinking, your mind’s simply sinking,
Your memories are blinking away, like fifty a day.
They’re gone and forgotten, your brain has gone rotten,
The truth it be told, You’re just getting old.

THE END

Guest, A Poem

9 Jun
Guest, A Poem by Ray Daley.
9/6/17
I’m the one that’s living at the bottom of your garden,
In a little wooden box that’s labelled “TEA“.
No-one else is living at the bottom of your garden,
The only person living there is me.
There’s cabbages and lettuces, there’s many types of fruit,
I’ve being there so long now, I feel I’ve taken root.
Because I’m the one that’s living at the bottom of your garden,
There’s nowhere else I’d really rather be.
THE END.

The Fight against depression

8 Jun

Recently I’ve been having some issues.

Depression hasn’t been helping me get motivated to write. It’s not like I haven’t been creative, I just haven’t been able to find a way to get myself actually writing and finishing something.

I checked the archive, the last thing I completed was on the 28th May 2017.

Ten whole days ago. That’s not good for a writer.

I wrote something called “The Fight,” a time travel piece where I’m not quite the protagonist but a lot of the names are from my own life. Writing about my sister and mother (both deceased) hurt me more than I thought.

To the point where when I was checking dates, I was in tears!

Then I just bottomed out into a funk, depressed and upset. Not in a good place.
I was angry about my writing, my creativity.

Today I pretty much forced myself to finish something. Almost 4 hours of writing, over 4000 words too. Long, for me. A long session too.

I don’t know if I feel any better, but I feel relieved at having written and finished something in this amount of time.

Even if you have to force yourself, it proves you can keep writing.

The only way out of a creative depressive funk is to get through it.

Here endeth the lesson.